Want to declutter your home once and for all? Ready to make room for the life you really want to live?
This may help.
If you are interested in the famous KonMari method, this article explains how it works and provides good examples.
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Quick Links – Decluttering 101
- Why Do I Have Clutter?
- Tidy is Free
- Family Matters
- How to Get There
- Oh, the Feelings
- Reasons We Keep Stuff
- But, I Might Need That!
- Recommended Resources
- Useful Decluttering Tips
- Yes, But…
- The Magic Question
- Decluttering by Category
- Watch Declutter TV
If you understand why you’ve got clutter, it’s a lot easier to tame it. Let me show you how!
A Job Half Done
Would you like a clean and organized home that makes it easy to get on with living the life you want?
Several years ago, when we thought we might have to move (we did), I started seriously decluttering many years of accumulation. I went room by room, weeding things out, and then weeding some more. Midway through the process we suddenly sold the house and had to move. I never quite finished the decluttering and many boxes of the unfinished business moved along with us.
Since then I’ve come up with a balanced, functional happy medium that works for us. It’s not going to be the same for any two families, but I think the information here will help you determine how you want to approach your own decluttering.
Organizing Is Big Business but It Doesn’t Have to Cost You
The goal is to create a comfortable, fully functioning home that let’s you do what you want and need to do.
At one end of the spectrum there’s the uber-organized trap, where every item is sorted, folded, labelled, indexed, and requires effort to access or put away.
At the other extreme is a minimalism so sparse that one is without the comforts that make life enjoyable.
What I aim for is the moderate approach. Stuff I use all the time (or enjoy having on display) needs to be easy to access, and the rest is either stored or purged.
Want to fast track it? Here’s my simple 5-step approach to getting your house in order.
I have one of those odd families that neither notices mess or clutter or care whether it’s there or not. Though, when presented with the idea of reducing clutter, they lean heavily toward ‘Ah, just leave it for now.’ Which translates as ‘forever’. I, however, was one of those freaky little kids who found cleaning my room to be tremendously therapeutic. Still do.
Today, as the Chief Domestic Engineer in our household, I need the house organized in a way that makes sense to me, and is easy to clean and find things. I love a tidy-looking home along with the pursuit of lots of creative endeavors. For many years this was not within my grasp but now, as the kids are older, I finally get to have my cake and eat it too. Clean, comfortable, and fun.
For starters, aim for:
- having just what you need (not more)
- everything has a logical place (everyone knows where to find stuff)
- each room is easy to keep clean and performs the intended function.
Emotionally-Charged Stuff Is Highly Overrated
As I worked through my own decluttering I realized that I clearly left the hardest decisions to last. At the old house, I got rid of the easy, low-hanging fruit. Now it’s down to the nitty gritty. Everyone will find certain aspects of decluttering straight forward and later stumble upon their own emotional hotspots.
At one point I had an epiphany as I got rid of stuff at our old house when I asked my husband about something and realized that the stuff I was hanging onto had zero meaning for him, and the stuff that he hangs onto has no meaning for me. I know I can’t change what he keeps, but that objectivity from him enabled me to let go of whole bunch of things that were really just my own emotional clutter in a bunch of tidy looking bins. You can save stuff from the past and try to give it to future generations but really, for the most part, they want to come up with their own treasures. We don’t want heirlooms and keepsakes pushed on us, so why do that to your kids?
Beyond the items we use and enjoy each day, most of us own a lot of stuff that rarely gets used. The reasons for hanging onto it generally falls into these categories:
- Sentimental (memorabilia)
- Bargains (didn’t need it but it was a good deal)
- Technology (there’s always something shiny and new to behold)
- Knowledge (books, often more books than we could ever possibly read again)
- Hidden Clutter (easier to stuff into spaces than deal with)
- I (Or Someone Else) Might Need That One Day (and caring too much about where stuff ends up)
While I have lived through all these reasons and have gradually shed them one by one, my last holdout seems to be I (Or Someone Else) Might Need That One Day which left me with a lot of tools and hardware to sort, some fancy old sewing machines, tons of art and craft supplies, and some what-if piles of riff raff.
The I Might Need That One Day excuse is growing old for me. Yes, I might need that widget or wadget, and yes, stuff costs money and why waste it?, but really, if you measure the stress of keeping, maintaining, organizing, cleaning, storing, and moving many items, their value wears thin. Easier to borrow or obtain what’s needed later if the need arises. Or just do without and go do something fun instead. I mean, we are burning daylight here.
That said, I do think it’s wise to engage in some emergency preparedness (get a free, printable checklist here) but the stuff we all hoard rarely falls into the category of useful during times of woe. Or, if it could be useful, we don’t remember we have it or know where it is.
Ways to Declutter and Get Organized
If I had it to do over when my kids were little, I would organize the rooms by purpose, centralizing all books, art supplies, games, toys, and other items used by everyone. This would clear a lot of bedroom clutter and make sure good supplies do not get overlooked or repurchased.
I like this idea of centralized resources for neighborhoods as well: think of all the items we each purchase but rarely use (specialized garden tools, ladders, etc.). In a better world we could be sharing these things and saving a lot of money. Hippy dreams forever.
Peter Walsh has excellent advice on decluttering and home organization. My favourite is the audio version of his book, Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat? The name comes from the rather intriguing relationship between excess, clutter, overconsuming, debt, and overeating. Booya!
Peter poses these questions when decluttering:
- What do you want from your life?
- What is the purpose of each space in your home?
The goal is to review every single thing you own and let go of that which does not contribute to the life you want. This can be done by working through categories of stuff, or room-by-room. If you’ve done the room-by-room thing in the past and it hasn’t really worked, I suggest categories. All books. All clothes. All dishes. And so on. You can get a free printable category list here.
- Instead of tidying up and trying to make everything fit in neat, labelled bins, try assessing the real purpose and function of each room. Empty the room and then just return that which supports its purpose. If it doesn’t fit the space or function, get rid of it.
- If you enjoy a tidy look, keep all flat surfaces clear.
- When you give everything a place, make sure your choices are realistic. Is it easy to get to frequently used items? Will I be able to maintain this?
- When decluttering, start small. For me, getting the fridge clean and nicely sorted provided an excellent start. Others find cleaning out their clothes closet a fresh, new beginning.
- Never acquire any new shelves or containers until you have completely sorted, reduced, and organized every single room of your house you can see what you actually need. If you’re like me, you may not need anything to make it work. If you pursue and declutter/tidy the entire house, your judgements about stuff will evolve. See the whole process through!
- Stop shopping. Take a month off from buying anything but food. This is a great way to become aware of your habits, step back, and see what you really want and need and discover how much of your current stuff you actually use. Again, the connection between clutter, overconsumption, debt, and overeating may come into focus.
Solutions for Typical Clutter Excuses
- Sentimental (memorabilia) – Emotional Clutter – keep one or two items and display them prominently. Take photos of the rest and let it go.
- Bargains (didn’t need it but it was a good deal) – Adrenalin Clutter – Stop shopping. Donate the surplus to charities. There’s always another sale….
- Technology (so much easier to buy electronics than responsibly dispose of them) – Trend Clutter – Consider using things up until they have worn out.
- Knowledge (books) – Ego Clutter – Allow one bookshelf of favourites you will read again and let the rest go. Again, just if it feels like clutter to you.
- Hidden Clutter (easier to stuff into spaces than deal with) – Emotional Clutter – You can run but you can’t hide. Get it all out in the open, do inventory, assess your needs, and let the rest go.
- I (Or Someone Else) Might Need That One Day – Fear-based Clutter – trust that will be able to get what you need when you need it and not have to stockpile for every eventuality. And, when getting rid of stuff, it’s truly not worth the time and energy to stress over who gets what. Just let it go and get on with it.
And here’s the one question that will really get you on your way to a decluttered life.
If you can answer this one honestly—and act on it—you will not have any further problems with clutter.
Are you ready? Ask:
Can I live without this?
And, if you like a positive approach, try the KonMari way:
Does this spark joy?
These two books by Marie Kondo, (“KonMari”), The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and Spark Joy, share a methodical approach to just keeping what you love and want in your life, working through all your belongings by category. It starts with clothing and works through everything in your home until you are left with the emotional items to assess. I found everything I needed to know in the first book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
For real-life examples of the KonMari method plus a free printable, see The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up.
For many of us, decluttering and tidying up is a long, tiring process that takes fortitude to see it through. An average family home may take a year to get in top shape. If you are determined, you will get it done and enjoy the rewards for the rest of your years.
~Melissa the Empress of Dirt ♛